Anger Game: Part 4
For Crying Out Loud, Now is the Time for Tears “It’s enough to make a grown man cry.” I first heard that line in a long forgotten movie years before I reached puberty. The devastation necessary to drive tears from the eyes of the macho male was obviously too emotional for a movie screen; the movie hinted at but never showed what it was that could make our hero cry. Men of my childhood and … [Read more...]
The Anger Game: Part 3
Attracted by our sexual difference we are forever united by our ever-evolving sameness. As heterosexual beings we are, by the essence of our hormones, attracted to difference. The desire to immerse our senses in the thrilling aura of what seems so opposite to our personal sexuality is intoxicating. Controlling these desires demands authoritative conditioning. Human physiology gives children the … [Read more...]
The Anger Game – Part 2: The Walk Away
The divorce rate for the over-fifty is escalating. Why would sexually and legally committed partners who have shared life’s memories for twenty or more years separate? Was separation the inevitable result of years of walking away from difficult emotions that desperately long to be shared? He says. “When she is in one of her moods the best thing is for me to leave and let her phone one of … [Read more...]
The Anger Game Part 1
The communication trail from anger to the afterglow of intimacy is a private pathway that each couple must carve together. We created this four part series to help couples find their way through the jungle of suppressed anger that subliminally builds and grows as it feeds on itself. Introduction It is time for us all to leave gender prejudice behind. The separation of sexes inherited from … [Read more...]
Men and the Struggle of Retirement
Coming Home from the “War” Many men struggle with retirement. Oh they won’t admit it. They’ll tell you just the opposite – that they’ve never been busier or happier. But ask their wives and you’ll often hear descriptions of their husband’s irritability, depression, and frustration. To understand the difficulty retirement poses for men, we need to review the male life cycle, … [Read more...]
Is Your Spouse an Addict?
Retirement is supposed to be a time of fun and joy for a couple. Even the strongest of relationships go through changes during the transition into retirement. For some people, being retired results in feelings of isolation, boredom and loss of meaning. Many spouses ignore or deny symptoms of alcohol or drug abuse prior to retirement, but can’t after. If you face a spouse with addiction … [Read more...]
Erotic Massage: The Wanted Touch Should Never be Left Wanting Part 4
Sensual touch carves a pathway through anger. In the months since we began this series on Erotic Touch we hope that you have practiced massage with a confident reach that tries to grasp ecstasy. Also, if you are remotely like us you will have found many reasons to be angry with each other. This anger may have not been fully expressed between you. This is destructive. Anger that withdraws feeds … [Read more...]
Erotic Massage: The Poetry of Intimacy Part 2
Presume you are free to float above stereotyped childlike notions of beauty as you imagine yourselves naked in each other’s arms and relishing the teasing nature of touch. We will now distract your mood with detail. For our sexual surrogate business we have a massage table designed to make a clientcomfortable while lying face down. The table is narrow and high enough to allow us to stand and … [Read more...]
Erotic Massage: The Poetry of Intimacy Part 1
When I was a child stumbling through puberty I tripped on a novel considered daringly erotic for the time: A story of two lovers separated by caste and joined by passion. The man was a laborer, tough and callused; his lover a lady, silky and tender. He cherished the feel of her honeyed skin, but work gnarled his fingers and made leather of his palms. To protect her sensitive body and guard his … [Read more...]
Success Is The Desire To Keep Reaching
Experience the eternal moment as it flows ever-changing through life’s reach for eternity that appears with a wish and in the breath of a whisper is gone. When we are absorbed in the moment the past flows silent without regret. And the future is but a fraction of the ever-evolving present. Sadly, ‘living in the moment’ has become an impotent expression. Like a beautiful scarlet vase … [Read more...]