By Rod and Anita Nairne

Experience the eternal moment as it flows ever-changing through life’s reach for eternity that appears with a wish and in the breath of a whisper is gone.

When we are absorbed in the moment the past flows silent without regret. And the future is but a fraction of the ever-evolving present. Sadly, ‘living in the moment’ has become an impotent expression. Like a beautiful scarlet vase beyond our grasp, perched high and empty, it gathers dust. Bring it to life with a bouquet of long-stemmed yellow roses. The roses will wilt but the memory of their beauty will remain as the forever future melds with the present. Memories are carved by such moments, sculpted to the mood by the artistic hands of emotion. 

‘It is the trip not the destination’. The destination will always be waiting; the more you prolong the journey the more intense is the arrival. Orgasm should be the explosion of the dam that has held back seconds and minutes and, hopefully, for mature lovers, hours and days of foreplay. It is learning how to control the climax that creates the true feeling of living in the moment along the forever shifting pathways of an expanded, radiant trip. Learn to make each moment orgasmic, not by continuing to add coins to a wishful fountain as if life is a bank account, but by spending those golden coins that a lifetime of performing has taught you to cherish.

Today is the time to shock life back into action. There is no success if it is continually recreated from the perception of a deprived past that lingers in an unsatisfied sense of perpetual sacrifice. If we feel we have forfeited our youth to achieve what we presume to have, our sacrifice will dominate the future and create a stagnant present. Maturity is not a pedestal to look down on past life. It is a platform built from using all our trials and errors, pleasures and pain. Maturity fused with intellect can become a foundation of creation, if we consider: Success is not an achievement reached; success it is the desire to keep reaching.

In truth, our generation had a life of magical change and ever-evolving opportunity. Most of us learned to live and love to a degree that is becoming much harder for our children to reach. It is time for us to recognize the joys we had and pass the flavor of our lives to future generations. Regrettably, it is far too often the unhappiest of our generation that speak for us with an angry demand for more. They want more of a climax they never truly achieved. What is worse, sexuality has become their manipulative tool. Those who never achieved sexual satisfaction speak as if denial is a sexual expression. For some the mere mention of the word orgasm is immoral. For the rest of us orgasm is the ultimate destination on a never-ending, ever-changing brilliant trial. Our generation gave sex the freedom it deserves. Let us show our appreciation by continuing to make-love. Forever make sex the expression of togetherness, not the tool of control and anger.

Next article will return to the sense of touch and talk of massage. In ten-years of sexual surrogacy, erotic massage was the most called-for, acted-out fantasy.

Rod & Anita Nairne
Sexual Researchers, Authors & Therapists
website: www.loveisforsharing.com
Blog: www.rodandanita.com/category/blog/
Amazon: http://amzn.to/zXQ7dA

By Cathy Severson

Having a good sense of yourself, what you have to offer and what your needs are regarding work is a major part in conducting a successful job search. Especially when unemployed, it’s easy to fall trap to thinking work is just about making money. Unfortunately, as soon as employed, income typical falls as a motivator and other aspects of the job become more important. Having a good understanding of all your wants and needs will help you find the best fit.

1. Know your buzz.
What do others say about you? What would your former employers and co-workers say about you? What would your family and friends say about you? How would they describe your strengths, what’s important you, how you present yourself to the world? List the qualities you think they would say, then take a risk and actually ask a couple of people close to you how they’d answer. You might be surprised at the answers.

2. What’s your specialty?
What special knowledge do you have? Think about classes in school where you did special assignments or projects. Have you had any unique work assignments that help your knowledge? What events or activities in you life have forced you to learn unique or unusual information?

3. Make my heart sing.
What are you interested in? What do you spend time learning about, reading or doing for your own enjoyment? What are you passionate about? Circle the five items below you would most enjoy doing: 

Engage in sports
Gardening/landscaping
Working with hands; building or repairing
Being adventurous, risk-taking
Collecting things
Outdoor activities; fishing, camping, mountain climbing
Observe behavior patterns
Solve complex mathematical problems
Invent new products
Science/Medicine
Analyze information to reach new conclusion
Play games of strategy
Act/perform in plays or concerts
Culinary Arts
Write poetry and short stories
Surround yourself with beautiful things
Conceptualize new ideas
Drawing/painting/photography/handicrafts
Attend to sick people
Counsel people with personal problems
Teach children/adults
Minister to people’s spiritual needs
Meet people from other countries/cultures
Participate in group activities
Give speeches/presentations/debating
Supervise/manage others
Network
Political/civic involvement
Operate your own business
Sell products or services
Accounting
Maintain detailed records
Coordinate
Manage data
Greet clients and making appointments
Quality Control

By Billy and Akaisha Kaderli

What if change was beneficial?

Going through major changes in our lives can be tricky. We will often find ourselves hanging on to familiar ways of doing things but perhaps those choices no longer work in a new situation. We hang on because it’s the devil we know and because it feels safe.

Retirement means change

If you would like to retire any time soon, chances are that this decision will require you to say “yes” to lots of new things while letting other things go. There is no way to avoid this because you will be moving into the new. Perhaps you will be looking at relocating to a more affordable city, state or even country. Unless you spend your retirement in the same town in which you are currently living, weather patterns will probably be different. The places you shop for groceries, places you go for entertainment and maybe even local customs could be a contrast to what you considered to be an everyday experience.

One of the benefits of being financial independent is the option of opening doors that you did not have access to previously. Maybe you didn’t even know they existed.

The more you say yes, the more new things will come. Saying yes requires a sense of adventure, a sense of possibility. It also requires personal flexibility. Staying flexible helps to keep us mentally fresh, physically vigorous.

Moving into the extraordinary

While on occasion you might find that these choices are challenging, but they can also be inspiring and fill a mundane living style with more energy. The ordinary can become extraordinary.

Being in exotic surroundings, perhaps learning a language, meeting interesting people outside of your previous neighborhood and generally being open to happenings that aren’t routine all cause your brain to adjust. You must now think differently, combining novel information and patterns with what you already take for granted. This process is very healthy and can make you feel more alive, even younger.

A different perspective

Are you exhausting yourself by pushing against a situation that you might have outgrown? Why not open up to fresh opportunities and unfamiliar circumstances? Or at least not desperately hang on for dear life. When was the last time you did something original or untried?

In loosening our grip onto routine – even just a little bit – allows Life to become a continuing educational opportunity, bringing with it unexpected rewards.

Why limit yourself? Open up to the new and find hidden treasure waiting for you.

Go ahead…. open up that door.

Billy and Akaisha Kaderli are recognized retirement experts and internationally published authors on topics of finance and world travel. With the wealth of information they share on their popular website RetireEarlyLifestyle.com, they have been helping people achieve their own retirement dreams since 1991.

By Jim Leonard

For a population hit especially hard by the ‘Great Recession,’ it’s encouraging to hear that employers increasingly want to know how to retain employees. As 10,000 baby boomers reach age 65 every day, employers understand that they may want to hang on to these seasoned workers.

There are many benefits to retaining older employees. The Workforce Development Council in Seattle, Washington identified a number of key benefits mature boomers. They have the ability to mentor younger and less experienced staff in protocols, procedures and products. They have experience and history about the organization. Aging baby boomers maintain a strong work ethic. They are perceived to be reliable and loyal workers. Finally, they have high productivity in their work.

With the extended lifespan and the expanded costs, many baby boomers will want to work in some capacity well into the tradition retirement age. It is much easier for an individual to stay with their current employer than look for a new job.

Examples of ways employees have continued to work for a company, but in a diminished capacity may involve the amount of time he/she works. An employee may also have a change in roles.

The amount of time an employee works can be changed in a number of ways. Working part time, job sharing, telecommuting, project or contracted based work, sabbaticals and phased retirement are examples of how an employee may continue to work, but for less time. Roles can change as the employee moves into a support or mentoring capacity.

By discussing the needs of both the employer and employee, it’s possible to use an individual’s talents for a long time. Take the time to explore options. Be willing to experiment and be creative. Identify clear goals and objectives for both the company and the employee. Retaining retirement age employees is not only good for the employee, it’s good for the bottom line.

By Nora Hall

Where did yesterday go? For that matter where did this morning go?

Perhaps I’m dreaming, but I recall the days when I worked, raised teenagers, went to graduate school, kept house, and packed and prepared food for our family’s every other week-end trek to go skiing. Sometimes I did all of that in one day––and never missed a deadline.

Today, I barely get dinner cooked. What’s happening?

Well, the kids are grown; my diploma’s dusty, the house doesn’t get as dirty, and I’ve given up cooking!

Still that doesn’t account for the incredible disappearance of time. Could it be that I’m slowing down in this stage they call retirement?

Many of my friends are also retired, and we occasionally commiserate with one another on this very subject of lost time or––simply not enough time to do everything. In retrospect, I don’t think it’s slowing down. I think we simply take time to enjoy the little things that always mattered but were often missed. Best of all, we find time to do things we’ve always wanted to do, but couldn’t because of obligations.

Today is the day to celebrate loss of time––time in which you got so lost in something you thoroughly enjoyed or that inspired you––when hours went by without your awareness…Time when you were so enthralled with your activity that you felt completely whole and animated…Time when you were at your happiest.

That’s not a loss of time. That’s time at its fullest. Why do we do it? Because we can.

Nora Hall blogs at Survive Your Husband’s Retirement and is developing her author platform for her upcoming book of that title.

When Nora’s husband retired early, she––and he–– were unprepared for this new journey and faced several trying months. Happily, they’ve come out on the other end and have rediscovered what led them to marriage in the first place.

Dr. Leisa-Marie Grgula

Will My Age Affect My Chiropractic Care? Yes, it may, but it’s a natural progression, and your care will still benefit you, if done properly. People of all ages can benefit from Chiropractic Care. Most people think that they are either too young, or too old to receive Chiropractic. The truth is, infants can be adjusted, as well as the elderly, even those with Alzheimer’s. Age does not matter as to whether Chiropractic works, however, it does matter how the treatment is rendered. The treatments for different age groups differ, as does the treatment time for each condition.

As we age, our bodies change in different ways. Our muscles tend to weaken, especially if we don’t keep up our weight bearing exercises. Strong muscles help our bones to stay strong, by supporting their place within our skeleton. Weakened muscles will affect spinal posture by allowing the bones to lose their height, and contribute to osteoporosis, and other bone conditions. X-Rays may be recommended for the mature patient, to allow the Chiropractic physician to know the condition of the bones involved. Muscle weakness is only a portion of the entire process of bone loss; however, it is important in maintaining good posture throughout life. When adjusting a spine that is losing its muscular support, caution needs to be taken, as the patient’s bones may not be as stable as those of a younger patient.

The muscles will also tend to become less flexible with age. This is why stretching exercises are so important. The muscles are attached to bones to assist in structure and function. Chiropractic treatments allow the proper function of these muscles and bones around the joints. With regular treatments, a chiropractic patient will experience increased mobility, and flexibility. A patient with poor flexibility may tend to fall more often, or lose balance. Good posture and strength will help prevent this instability greatly.

The time for corrections and healing to take place while the aging process has progressed, is longer than that of a younger patient with the same or similar condition being treated. This is because inflammation is more prevalent with degenerative conditions. One such condition is arthritis. Arthritis is the inflammation of joints, and most common in mature individuals. Chiropractic treatment for patients with arthritis, whether osteoarthritis, or more severe types of arthritis is much different than the treatment of a patient without arthritis. Most patients complaining of pain due to arthritis report much improvement after receiving Chiropractic.

Metabolism and the absorption of nutrients also plays a role in the healing process. This is important in treating musculoskeletal conditions, because the nutrients are necessary for regeneration of nerve, muscle, tendon, and ligament cells. This absorption of nutrients is slowed down as we age. The metabolism also slows down, affecting the speed at which the body responds to Chiropractic care. Nutritional supplements can assist with the metabolism issues, however, patients may expect a slower recovery time with age.

Overall, Chiropractic care is a benefit to patients of all ages. As your Chiropractic physician, it’s my job, to make the necessary changes throughout your life as my patient.

Dr. Leisa-Marie Grgula received her Doctor of Chiropractic Degree from National University of Health Sciences, formally National College Of Chiropractic. Dr. Grgula works to incorporate nutrition, food, and exercise programs into her treatment plans. She helps people make small changes in their life that will allow them to enjoy the activities they love without pain or health restrictions. She regularly lectures on Health issues, including her recent trademark, ”Medical Footprint”. This topic addresses how the choices we make today affect our health and healthcare system of the future. Visit her website at http://www.caringpainrelief.com/

By Rod and Anita Nairne

Our visually-obsessed world demands we look then dream in solitary play. But a touch of gray makes fiction of anorexic distortions that tell touch to stay away.

In ages past, Gray implied colorless, sexless aging. In today’s world, gray begins to show on temples and with silvery flecks through shady hair long before sexuality has reached the pinnacle that only maturity can bring. The young and the cute make pretty pictures that dance for our eyes in high definition surreal-sexual images as if to imply there is no room for sophistication in their projected fiction. Thankfully, the beauty of aging shines through biographies of women and men who have made-love to life in every position possible. Actors in their fifties and beyond show that attractiveness ages well if the performer cares enough for self to maintain and enhance health.

Sex for procreation is youth’s game and nature demands immaturity rush to the finish as if sprinting to reproduce. Primitive humans survived tigers and slithering reptiles by mating quickly when physically prime; there was little need for intellect in sex. Not so today. Sex has meaning that evolves slowly over time and only experience can define life’s sexual reason beyond that overwhelming drive to reproduce. In our modern day, experience defines sex with a sense of touching-time, of elongating every sexual state from touch, to kiss, all the way along a winding, beautifully intensifying trail to orgasm. Sadly, there are, far too often, habits that linger in the pre-gray area where youth gradually gives way to maturity. It is common reason that youth should mate with other youth to create offspring with healthy genes. There is little reason for youth to be attracted to Gray. Reversely, when Gray is attracted to youth it can only mean that the silvery Beast has remained sexually immature.

Defining sexual touch requires denying sexual myth. During our ten-years of sexual surrogacy an extremely common myth proved wrong. We found that almost all the men we serviced loved to linger after orgasm. The stereotyped male of quick-in, then-out to run is an ugly cliché: an ‘unkind cut’ to men and their lovers. It is very sad that such distortions have come to feed on themselves. Our society has become so obsessed with stereotyping sexes that the stereotypes themselves have become accepted, and, worse: Many sexual stereotypes are so engrained they are regularly used by relationship therapists.

Before we continue with our evolving practice of refining the sense of touch we need all our readers to know what we have learned after thousands of clients: Men love to touch and be touched; they want to linger over every second. This only works when the lady, they are with, is in love with herself and totally in control of the sexual maturity that only time and experience can offer. For this week we will leave the physical practice of touch to linger in last week’s suggestions of developing fingertip vision. While you groom this remarkable sense of touch in your fingers begin to abandon useless, stereotypical-gender, emotional differences. Search by sharing with imaginative minds as you see with touch.

Rod & Anita Nairne, Sexual Researchers, Authors & Therapists
website: www.loveisforsharing.com
Blog: www.rodandanita.com/category/blog/
Amazon: http://amzn.to/zXQ7dA

“Here, try this.”

“Oh, no thanks. That’s ok. I’m good.”

It’s so easy to say “No” to new things. We get comfortable in our lifestyle, our viewpoints, and in our expectations. Trying something new just upsets the applecart. And who wants to do that?

We have our favorite hangouts, the foods we like the most, TV shows we prefer, and our cherished ideas of how our future should be playing out… But meanwhile, Life continues to offer us alternatives that don’t fit into our plans, so we say “No.”

Being afraid of the new

It can be frightening to place ourselves in novel situations, meeting someone out of our social circle, or even trying out a new menu item. And it sounds so silly or even annoying to suggest “Just say Yes to Life!”

I would venture to say that most people don’t realize they are resisting anything at all. Circumstances in their lives might be comfortable – or not – but the last thing that would occur to them is to open up to the new. The human tendency to dig our heels in creates a feeling of stability that can be very attractive.

As humans, we want what is dependable, something we can count on, the predictable. If things are spelled out, we know what’s in store and we pretend that we can build on a physically firm foundation. The desire for security is strong in all of us and there is nothing wrong with that inherent need. This motivation propels us to build cities, hospitals, schools, — whole societies.

However, the longer we live, the more we recognize how Life shakes us up whether we wish for it or not. Children leave home, divorces happen, illness makes its appearance, financial circumstances change. We get to the point where “new” means something risky or regretful. Better to stay with what we know.

It’s safer.

What if change was beneficial?

Going through major changes in our lives can be tricky. We will often find ourselves hanging on to familiar ways of doing things but perhaps those choices no longer work in a new situation. We hang on because it’s the devil we know and because it feels safe.

Retirement means change

If you would like to retire any time soon, chances are that this decision will require you to say “yes” to lots of new things while letting other things go. There is no way to avoid this because you will be moving into the new. Perhaps you will be looking at relocating to a more affordable city, state or even country. Unless you spend your retirement in the same town in which you are currently living, weather patterns will probably be different. The places you shop for groceries, places you go for entertainment and maybe even local customs could be a contrast to what you considered to be an everyday experience.

One of the benefits of being financial independent is the option of opening doors that you did not have access to previously. Maybe you didn’t even know they existed.

The more you say yes, the more new things will come. Saying yes requires a sense of adventure, a sense of possibility. It also requires personal flexibility. Staying flexible helps to keep us mentally fresh, physically vigorous.

Moving into the extraordinary

While on occasion you might find that these choices are challenging, but they can also be inspiring and fill a mundane living style with more energy. The ordinary can become extraordinary.

Being in exotic surroundings, perhaps learning a language, meeting interesting people outside of your previous neighborhood and generally being open to happenings that aren’t routine all cause your brain to adjust. You must now think differently, combining novel information and patterns with what you already take for granted. This process is very healthy and can make you feel more alive, even younger.

A different perspective

Are you exhausting yourself by pushing against a situation that you might have outgrown? Why not open up to fresh opportunities and unfamiliar circumstances? Or at least not desperately hang on for dear life. When was the last time you did something original or untried?

In loosening our grip onto routine – even just a little bit – allows Life to become a continuing educational opportunity, bringing with it unexpected rewards.

Why limit yourself? Open up to the new and find hidden treasure waiting for you.

Go ahead…. open up that door.

About the Authors

Billy and Akaisha Kaderli are recognized retirement experts and internationally published authors on topics of finance and world travel. With the wealth of information they share on their popular website RetireEarlyLifestyle.com, they have been helping people achieve their own retirement dreams since 1991.

By Warren Stortroen

We watched closely as a small group of penguins approached the road crossing where we were stationed. They moved rather rapidly along the well-worn trail in the undergrowth, but stopped and piled up behind the leader as they reached the road. The leader stepped out rather tentatively, and then quickly waddled across with the rest of the group following closely behind him! We were doing a census of the population so noted the time and counted the number in the group that was returning home from a fishing trip at sea. I was with two other enthusiastic volunteers, Catherine and Cecelia, on the Earthwatch Institute research expedition SOUTH AFRICAN PENGUINS on Robben Island, recently an apartheid prison colony, in the windswept bay off Cape Town.

The island is now a national park and is regularly visited by tourists to see the penguins, introduced fallow deer, several antelope species and the prison and rock quarries where Nelson Mandela and other activists were held and worked from 1969 to 1990. The South African “Jackass” penguins were native to the island until exterminated by colonists in the 1800’s. They had built their nests in thick guano that was taken by the colonists for fertilizer. The penguins re-colonized the island in 1983 and the growth of the colony has been spectacular, but with a bad setback in 2000 when an ore carrier sank in the bay. The massive oil spill came ashore resulting in a huge rescue and relocation effort! They have pretty well recovered but, because of smaller spills and illegal bilge dumping, the volunteer rescue center near Cape Town is still operating and during the expedition sent us 50 de-oiled penguins for release!

Each morning and evening we monitored the penguins going out to sea and returning from fishing at two sites along the shoreline road. It was fun watching them following trails to and from the nesting area, sometimes piling up at a crossing and then suddenly hurrying across the road! We also did surveys of the nests, usually under tree roots, to count the nesting pairs, eggs and number and age of chicks. Some days we also did drives to census the fallow deer, antelope and European rabbits that were introduced to the island by early colonists. We also checked the penguins on shore for the number of moulters and any oiled birds that needed to be sent to the rescue center, and spent one day picking up debris along the beach.

The five Earthwatch volunteers and two staff were based in a house that had once been used by prison guards, where we prepared our own breakfasts and lunches and took turns cooking dinner. We played a lot of cribbage and took walks around the interesting island. One day the staff arranged an interesting tour of the prison, quarries and other interesting sites. On a weekend some volunteers took the ferry back to Cape Town for tours of the city and Table Mountain. I’d had a previous tour so stayed on the island to rest, do some bird watching and release de-oiled penguins! After the project we toured the penguin rescue center and Catherine, Cecelia and I took a tour of the scenic wine district and had a very nice lunch at one of the wineries!

This is a very interesting and worthwhile expedition that is still being offered by Earthwatch and, while there is some hiking, it is not strenuous, so anyone interested in the cute and fascinating penguins, other exotic wildlife and historic Robben Island should consider signing up!

By Cathy Severson

The Devil is in the Details
You’ve heard finding a job is a full-time job. It’s not only how much time you spend looking for a job, but how you spend your time. Finding a job over 50 is often more difficult. It’s critical to manage your time and get organized early on. Follow these tongue-in-cheek tips to develop good job search skills.

1. A watched pot never boils.

Be wary of expectations. Always expect the job search to last from fifty percent to twice as long as you expect. Prepare for a longer time than you think it is going to last, then focus the daily and weekly activities you need to accomplish rather than on the end goal. While it’s dangerous to predict, you can estimate it will take one month of job search for every $10,000 you expect to earn. For example, if you expect to earn $50,000, it will easily take you five months of looking before you get a job offer. Assume that’s conservative.

2. The stopwatch.

Schedule your time and organize your week. Develop weekly routines and schedules for your job search. It’s more important to spend twenty hours of comprehensive effort than 40 hours haphazardly. So, you don’t need to work forty hours a week, but keep in mind you will get out of it what you put into it. Prepare your weekly schedule on Sunday, so you wake up Monday morning knowing exactly what you need to do towards your job search for the whole week.

3. The bottom-line.

Establish a new budget. Completing a budget is the first thing you should do if you find yourself unemployed. Seriously cut back on extras. Often parents hesitate to tell children about job loss, fearing they will be unnecessarily traumatized. Children sense family disruptions. Involve them in the process and even have them help suggest ways to cut back. This is not the time to pretend everything is “normal”.

4. Not the vinyl kind.

Keep records. Develop a record keeping system of all your job search activities. You should have a job search notebook. Include keeping a calendar with a log of your networking contacts, research activities, resumes sent, interviews and follow-up actions. You might also want to include websites you’ve visited and books you’ve reviewed at the bookstore or library.

5. Easy come, easy go.

Keep track of all your expenses. If you itemize your taxes, job search expenses are potentially tax deductible. Examples of expenses that may be deductible are employment agency fees, printing, postage, phone including long distance and travel/transportation. Travel to interviews and other activities may be deductible. In 2004, the standard mileage rate was 36 cents per mile.