By Gail Massey

Some of the best family times are found when playing games. Does good grandparenting mean letting the children win at games? How do you know when to let a child win and when is it good to learn how to lose gracefully.

We’ve always played many games in our family, starting with simple ones when children were as young as three. Deciding to let children win a game has to do with a number of factors.

Children learn quite early that winning is important. If a child constantly loses, she won’t want to play. The purpose of playing games is to have fun and enjoy the interaction that comes from being together. There isn’t any harm in letting a child win. But, if the grandchild is intentionally cheating, don’t  let her win.

The child also needs to learn that when playing games, one can’t win all of the time. So, while it’s important to win, it’s also important to learn how to lose. Grandparents shouldn’t feel like they have to throw the game.

As the children grow and become more competitive, it’s nice to find a balance. Winning and losing at games can also provide an opportunity for discussion. On of the great jobs of a grandparent is to share values with grandchildren. This can involve telling about a past experience you had related to winning or losing. Imparting ideas about giving your best are also important lessons.

Playing games are great opportunities to share experiences with grandchildren, especially in a world, where youngsters have their noses in electronics 24/7. The ultimate goal of interaction is to enjoy your grandchildren. Sometimes, there are opportunities to expand and game playing serves that purpose. Good grandparenting allows you to use games in many ways.