By Gail Massey
For women over 50, it’s easy to lose hope of finding your soulmate. How to find a man of your dreams may take a bit of effort on your part, but if you have a good attitude and perseverance, you can find the love and companionship you desire.
Start with a good attitude. If you believe all men are schmucks, you’re going to have a hard time finding Mister Right. The idea is to meet new people, have a good time and maybe… Romance will blossom.
The past is past. When first meeting someone, don’t dwell on the past. It isn’t important to share all of the trials and tribulations you’ve had in your life and don’t ask about his. Get acquainted, and learn about the person, but don’t focus on past relationships.
Meeting the family. Also, don’t rush into meeting each other’s families. Children and grandchildren can be a joy, but when you’re just getting acquainted and learning about someone else, you want to devote as much time for just the two of you, without a lot of involvement from other people.
Get out. Many years ago, I had a minister say, “You won’t meet Mr. Right with door locked and the window blinds down.” You need to get out there. Experiment with the best places and ways to meet people. Many women over 50 are using the Internet. Others meet men through friends or activities of interest. The key is to experiment.
Don’t be too quick to judge. It’s one thing to have your dream guy meet certain criteria, but don’t be too quick to conclude this is or isn’t the right person based on physical appearance. Approach your dating with an open mind.
Be willing for some give in take. If you’ve lived alone for a while, it’s easy to get set in your ways. Sharing your life with someone requires being willing to compromise. You need to have good boundaries as to what is important and where you won’t budge. Find a happy medium where you both get your way at least some of the time.
Learning how to find the man of your dreams is based largely on your attitude, willingness to get out there and have fun. If you approach dating with a positive attitude, you might be pleasantly surprised by the outcome.